It probably won't make you happy...
Written by jack friks
Last Updated: Jul 29, 2023
The truth of today: Finding freedom in life and adding more freedom to your life doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re life is going to be better off after you find such freedoms
…but it does mean you will have more time to discover what you want to do with your time as opposed to doing the things you already know you don’t want to waste your time doing.
In finding more freedom you can also find and exploit the things you do enjoy a lot more.
& that’s what my aim is for freedom, not a life of all bliss. but a life of more potential bliss.
Because today is not about how freedom of time or any other form will make your life perfect & blissful always, but how it’s starkly the opposite of such an expectation.
The expectation that life could be anything other than an unbalanced circus.
Why freedom won’t save you
Freedom may take away your feeling of misery short term, but the feeling of actually being free isn’t having a certain amount of money or lifestyle, it’s just a feeling.
The biggest obstacles we hurdle in life are not real obstacles, but mental ones.
Someone who is miserable is more likely this way not because they aren’t free, but for a hundred other reasons. A lot of which are likely mental.
Or maybe they’re intentionally miserable & unhappy…
Maybe they have a desire for something they do not yet have.
Having a desire is having a contract not to be happy until you reach where you desire.
This can work to your long-term benefit, or detriment depending on your mental scope on the situation.
the point I’m trying to make now is that even people who reach freedom still have new desires, they want things in life & when they get it they discover something else they want.
Reaching for any type of freedom with the idea it will solve all your life’s problems is setting yourself up for a desire that can never be met, so you’ll constantly be unhappily reaching for more freedom.
I’m not entirely sure yet how to break this loop, but I know as of recently from first-hand experience that there is no prescription of achievement in one life that will make it perfect or problem free, so if you were under the impression that freedom would save you from all the ill things in life, then here is your forwarning.
Free useful stuff
Just before we dive further, recently I’ve made a free really cool thing which I might as well tell you about.
Because if you’re reading this, then the odds are you’ll be someone who finds this free thing I made useful.
I used to use a daily planner every day to stay on top of my work, but I’ve found a better system for me that you may enjoy too.
It’s a simple to-do list template, that divides things in a way to keep you from being overwhelmed & getting things that matter most done.
Download it here (free)
This came from me reading 4000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman this last week & near the end of the book it recommends a best practice to-do list, so I went ahead & followed the Instructions then turned it into a template for myself & for you.
Go get it here (free)
The unbalance in the “good life”
Earlier I mentioned that life is almost always some form of an unbalanced circus.
What do I mean by this?
Well, the first example is the wild success of Elon Musk, the guy who sold Paypal, built SpaceX, Tesla, & now X (formerly Twitter) — you may also know him as the richest man in the world as of writing this.
Someone with so much money certainly has financial freedom, & many more freedoms not available to any of us nonbillionaires.
The thing is… success and money, these things don’t even come close to leading a “balanced life”, Elon Musk slept on factory floors for extended periods of time in his life, and the balance in his life is heavily steeped in his works, not his family life or other.
There really is not much of an artful balance of any of our lives though, this isn’t exclusive to billionaire playboys.
The best things in life come from unbalanced acts.
Example #1: Let’s say you want to increase how much money you make, your income.
Well, you are going to need to take some time from one part of your life & add it to this goal or endeavor, even if not a large chunk of time, at the very least a large chunk of your daily cognition & thoughts.
You will have to unbalance your current “balanced” life (it can never be truly balanced with all the unknown that comes in our life)
Perhaps you want to spend more time with your family, you want to balance the time between your work & family.
In order to do this you will almost certainly have to endure a lot of imbalance at first, after all, not likely are you going to hit the nail on the head first try when it comes to figuring out defining boundaries between work, play & family.
Because you’re now dealing with other people, not just yourself. They have their own needs from you, they have their own desires of you & them, & your 3-year-old son doesn’t know the difference between work & play.
Imbalance is natural in all parts of life, as your toddler takes their first steps, as you try to juggle work & family, nothing will ever be spot on to the degree, & within our finite time here on earth our job is really just how to find out what to spend time balancing & what not to.
The best part here is that we can all choose our own imbalances, & define what is most important to us. We have the freedom to do so, & that is the best freedom to have, the one of choice.
I write about personal freedom & many things curious about freedom in general, but… why?
Well, my main mission in writing about personal freedom & all things life is to enjoy it most of the time (I do very much)
— a lot of the time however I would say my writing is really just self-reflections of my own personal philosophy on things so others can see a possible alternative view and create their own from there.
Essentially: I’m trying to use my thinking to help others think because many people have lost their own thoughts in line with a crowd of how things ought to be or should be, as opposed to how they want them to be.
Summary, TLDR & Wrap-up Conclusion
Finding freedom in life doesn't guarantee a better life, but it allows time to explore meaningful pursuits.
Freedom won't save you from misery or unbalance.
Success often comes from unbalanced efforts.
Life is about choosing which imbalances matter to you and making conscious decisions.
Personal freedom is also to think independently rather than following societal norms.
Thank you for reading, so frikin much.
from your friend in his mom’s basement,