a friendly pep talk

some words to help you in times of need


Written by jack friks

Last Updated: Sep 19, 2023

Today, we’re doing something different, something perhaps unusual.

Today I’m going to write as if you are my close friend.

I’m going to write to you as someone who I want to find more joy in life & also find more of the joy in creating things.

this comes in the form of a letter & pep talk: to you, my friend

My dear friend,

I hope you’re doing well, it’s been awhile since we last spoke. Since I haven't heard from you in quite a while I figured I’de send out a reminder to you in case you’ve forgotten some of the important things to *remember* in trying times. Not that I think you’re in trying times, but you know… couldn’t hurt?

First off I want you to know that I love you, and I can love you because I’ve taken the time to love myself first. You don’t need to tell me you love me back. If you don’t mean it, I have enough love: you can borrow some of it, it’s no trouble.

Regardless, I just wanted to let you know what’s on my mind, and share with you some of the joy I’ve been able to find in life lately (maybe you can find some joy in mine too). First off, I’ve been making things, creating them if you will. Actually, I’ll spill the beans with you, I’m writing a book! What a fantastic experience it is. To be able to put my thoughts onto a page and think about them as words I’ve put into the world, to be able to rearrange my own thoughts as I think them, it’s an ever evolving and equally splendid process. It’s also kind of like I’m moving my feet under my own command, much different than if I had to make something of myself for my creations, I’m just having a blast in the process.

Enough about me though, I’m writing this for you, my dear friend. I’ve come to ask you some questions today, or rather: I’ve come to give you some questions today. Questions for you to ask yourself. You don’t have to answer all of them, but man some of these questions had my mind turning over, not in a grave though, but rather onto a new page of life: a page with a giant map ready for adventure.

The questions

Here’s the questions:

- What do I want out of life? How can I get more of it?

- What is something I’m curious about?

- How can I create around my curiosities? (document, experiment, share, collaborate?)

- Where am I going now? How does it differ from where I want to go?

Do I love myself? Why? Why not?

Again: you don’t need to answer all of these questions, many of these questions may not have direct answers anyways. They may instead just prompt more questions inside of you naturally… That’s the fun part about asking questions.

The magical parts of life

Finally, here’s something I wrote about life in that may help you through any trying times, please come back to this if you ever find yourself being overly hard on yourself:

“Perhaps a large part of this masquerade we call life is that we have no idea how far we can take ourselves and it scares the frik out of us. To think that we could be a pawn freely promoting itself at the end of the board, but end up stuck on the second line of life. From this point of view you’re living up to something, but in reality we’ve set up a false hierarchy, we need not to be continuously promoting ourselves, more so we need to be continuously loving ourselves enough to fight the battle we find worthwhile.” – me (your friend)

It’s funny how life works you know: we are born, we live, we die… that’s the gist of it, but somewhere in the middle there are some magical moments, moments only we can hold onto. How something made us feel, how we did something hard, or worthwhile (usually both), or how we explored our own thoughts and discovered a hidden piece of knowledge… life is full of these magical moments. So the next time you’re thinking of how you haven’t had a magical moment in a long while, take note that it usually means one is close around the bend; coming your way.

And life really is magical y’know, to think we’re even here right now, existing, it’s a wild thing isn’t it?

Write me a letter back and tell me how you’re doing, what’s on your mind? What’s got you down, or what’s got you up! Tell me all about it.

With love,
your friend,
jack ♠️


Final request

Take some time to reflect on the questions I asked in this letter, and if you are so inclined: journal up a draft of your response to this, as a friend.

You can send it to me at jack@frikit.net or you can simply keep it to yourself. Regardless I feel that you will benefit a good amount if you’re to take up this challenge, even if only for 5 minutes. - Only do so if it interests you though, otherwise, carry on with paying attention to where your attention leads you next.

that’s all for now, if you enjoyed this article: then consider sharing it with a friend :)

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